A 33-year-old Nigerian man has opened up about his heartbreaking battle with infertility after receiving a devastating diagnosis that he may never be able to father a child. The young man shared his emotional experience in a private message to well-known relationship and mental health adviser, Agba John Doe, who later posted the anonymous story on his X (formerly Twitter) page to shed light on the often-overlooked struggles faced by men dealing with fertility issues.
In his message, the distraught man revealed that he had undergone a medical test in hopes of finding answers to a long-standing concern, only to be told that his sperm cells were entirely nonviable. This diagnosis has left him completely shattered, particularly because he has always dreamed of becoming a father.
“Agba, I’m devastated. Recently ran a test because of my situation, and the worst is that my sperm cells are completely dead. By October 1st, I’ll be 34, no kids, and my sperm cells are dead. Agba, I love kids, and now I can’t have mine,” the man wrote with palpable sorrow.
He also described the emotional turmoil he has been enduring since receiving the test results. He shared how his heart sinks every time he remembers the diagnosis, and how the weight of societal expectations and family pressure to get married and have children only worsens his emotional state.
“What will be my excuse when the pressure from family to get married comes? What will I tell them? I’m depressed, and confused, and I cry whenever that result flashes… Sir, I don’t want to believe that it is finished. Please, is there any solution to my situation right now?” he asked desperately.
The man’s cry for help highlights not only the emotional toll of infertility but also the stigma and silence surrounding men’s reproductive health in many African societies. His bravery in speaking out, even anonymously, has sparked conversations about the need for more awareness, support systems, and access to medical solutions for men facing similar issues.
Agba John Doe’s decision to share the message was aimed at providing encouragement and opening the floor for constructive dialogue around male infertility and mental health. Many social media users who read the story expressed empathy, encouragement, and hope, with some suggesting medical options such as advanced fertility treatments, lifestyle changes, and counseling support.
It remains a powerful reminder that infertility is a deeply personal and painful journey, and that both men and women deserve compassion, access to care, and mental health support as they navigate it.
